Marital Issues

I just came home from a group study, It was already 2 am in the morning, When I was about to hit my bed, I heared a scream from outside, crying for help! What shocked me is, the couple from my next room were quarreling... The girl was asking for help because the guy hit her. I really wanted to go and help, but it was no use because the guy shut the door and shouted "its just a marital problem" that can only be resolved by the two of them.Honestly I felt like my heart melt, I pity the girl so much, knowing that they just get married.

So whats the purpose of getting married at all? They should have been enjoying the what so called "honeymoon stage" I believed that before marriage, somehow there is a hint of what kind of person are you going to marry. Sometimes even your intuition tells you so, but you are stubborn trying not to notice it because you are already blinded by the feelings that you have for your boyfriend, dreaming that he is the Knight of your Shining Armor,your soulmate, the one who would be there to make you feel secure everyday. Well sad to know that it is only true in fairy tales.

Which makes me think so much if I still want to get married...I do like to say I do in the altar, to the person that I love. But thinking about the incident makes me think a lot if I really wanted to push thru with it! Well I believe that as long as both understand and respect eachother.

Another case that bothers me a lot is from my classmate, who told me about that after 40 years of her existence in this world, Its her first time to experience what it feels like to fall inlove, Not with her husband, but with her bestfriend, I really have a nice time talking to her, I was so amazed because after having 7 children with her husband she told me that she just married him because she knows that her husband love her so much and she dont feel the way her husband feel for her. The marriage was good for 10 years and after that, her husband started to have other woman as flings, infact sired 4 children from those other woman he had. That leads to my classmate's depression and she find a comfort to an officemate who is also married.She told me they had a lot of things in common, actually the guy has already shown sexual advances towards her, but she just decline, But its only now that she realized how much she like it, and told me she always think of the guy.One of the thing she pointed out to me, was the guy is younger than her, but the guy was very persistent. And the danger side was, If ever the guy would ask her again, she would really go for it!

Well, as much as I wanted to present to her the good and bad side about the issue, I know that she just wanted to be happy. So I just adviced her that She would follow what is in her heart and be sure that she would not regret anything after. Thats why in life we always have choices, as a test of how strong we are in carrying lifes problem. But I believe that everything happens for a reason and there is always a wisdom for it. I hope that she would make the right decision.

I did not sleep thinking. As of the moment I really liked someone so much, But I think he doesn't like me the way i do... But he makes me smile and he makes me feel very speacial.